What if your marriage could feel different by Friday? Most couples are working on the wrong problem.
June 1, 2026
Sometimes you just have to do it.
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How childhood wounds quietly hurt your relationship… Most relationship conflict starts here
May 18, 2026
From: Jonathan Van Viegen Balcony of the Surf Lodge, Playa Venao, Panama Monday, May 18, 2026 Dear Friend, I’ve built my Enlightened Marriage on 5 principles. These are not moods or feelings. They are: Loyalty. Honesty. Transparency. Commitment. Fidelity. Those are the truth obligations Meredith and I commit to… every
20 seconds to save your relationship… When life is chaos, do this.
April 21, 2026
From: Jonathan Van Viegen My city apartment (for 4 more days), Panama City Tuesday, April 21, 2026 Dear Friend, I’ve been crashing out over a deadline for 2 weeks now. I got 10 days left to deliver my final manuscript to my publisher. So yeah… I missed last week’s newsletter.
The grass isn’t greener… You’re just standing somewhere else
April 6, 2026
From: Jonathan Van Viegen My surf lodge office, Playa Venao, Panama Monday, April 6, 2026 Dear Friend, I’m going to say something that might save your marriage. The “grass is greener” mindset has destroyed more relationships than I care to count. And it’s really hard to watch. After 17 years
The conversation that could change your marriage… You don’t have to become a perfect partner.
May 26, 2025
She doesn’t want words. She wants to feel safe with you.