From one therapist to another.
Preorder my new book ‘Choosing Us’ and you’ll receive:
- Your copy of Choosing Us
- Clinicians Workshop on the Chosen & Cherished Method™
- Spot in the Chosen & Cherished Society NEW Peer Consultation Group
The book is just the beginning.
Choosing Us was written for couples. But much of what’s inside it was learned in the therapy room. It takes you into the real conversations, the real struggles, and the real turning points that help couples move from disconnection to feeling chosen again. Now I want to take therapists behind the book.
Preorder one book. Get invited to both.
The Chosen & Cherished
Method™ Workshop
A live, interactive workshop exclusively for helping professionals where I’ll unpack the clinical thinking behind Choosing Us and teach you how I apply the Chosen & Cherished Method™ with real couples.
Monthly Peer
Consultation Group
Join The Chosen & Cherished Society. Bring difficult cases. Ask questions. Hear how other therapists are approaching their work. Let’s learn, grow, and become better couples therapists, together.
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The Chosen & Cherished Method™
Most couples aren’t sitting in your office because they don’t love each other. They’re there because somewhere along the way, one or both stopped feeling chosen.
The Chosen & Cherished Method™ is the framework I’ve developed from more than a decade working with couples. It helps us understand what’s keeping them stuck and gives them a practical path forward.
Restore enough safety and goodwill to work together again.
Before couples can repair the problem, they have to stop experiencing each other as the problem.
Get underneath the positions they're defending.
Move beyond who’s right and who’s wrong to understand the fears, wants, identity wounds, and meaning driving the conflict.
Turn insight
into observable
change.
Help each partner consistently behave in ways that communicate:
“I see you. You matter to me. And I’m still choosing us.”
It's helping two people build a relationship
neither of them wants to leave.
Who It's For
This is for therapists, counselors, psychologists and other helping professionals who want to improve their skills with couples, feel more confident in their work, and be part of a supportive community.
In the Monthly Peer Consultation Group, we’ll explore real cases and talk about what to do when:
- Both people have a compelling case
- You feel stuck or off-track in session
- Insight and talking isn’t creating real change
- You want to stop picking sides and see the system
What Other Therapists Are Saying:
I've never been particularly interested in doing therapy the way it's always been done.
I’m Jonathan Van Viegen, MA MFT — a Registered Psychotherapist, couples therapist + relationship coach, author, and creator of the Chosen & Cherished Method™.
For more than a decade, I’ve specialized in helping couples navigate some of the hardest places a relationship can go — from chronic conflict and emotional disconnection to infidelity, betrayal, and the question of whether to stay married at all.
That work became the foundation of the Chosen & Cherished Method™, the approach I now use in my clinical work, teaching, and my first book, Choosing Us, published by Wiley/Jossey-Bass.
I’ll also be presenting this work at the 2026 AAMFT National Conference, with an excerpt from Choosing Us appearing in Psychology Today.
Therapist Track is where I get to bring what I’ve learned back into the therapy room — sharing the frameworks, interventions, and hard-won lessons that have helped me work more effectively with couples when the usual approaches aren’t getting them unstuck.
Questions You May Have
Who can join?
Therapists, psychologists, social workers, counselors, and other helping professionals interested in couples and relationship work.
Do I need to specialize in couples?
No. The Chosen & Cherished Society is also for clinicians who want to become more confident working with couples.
What do I get for preordering?
The live Chosen & Cherished Method Workshop in November plus the ongoing monthly Peer Consultation Group.
Is there an additional training fee?
No. Preorder one copy of ‘Choosing Us’ and verify your purchase to claim your spot.
